Despite what people may think—marriage isn’t about meeting needs. It’s more than that. It’s about a man and a woman making a covenant with God to honor each other—not themselves.
Marriage is about sacrifice. It’s exhibiting absolute love and displaying an undying commitment to one another. Marriage, in essence, is wrapped in the love and forgiveness of Jesus Christ.
Yet, millions of couples (all over America) have supplemented a covenant with God for a contract with their spouse. This is not only a cheap rendition of marriage but will ultimately lead to failure.
Five Biblical Points For Marriage
Listed below are five key points recorded in the Bible that demonstrate what marriage is all about.
First, the covenant between a husband and wife is a symbol of Christ and the church. Marriage is not about meeting your spouse half way, but it’s about mutual submission under the authority and reverence of Christ (Eph. 5:21).
Second, Christ gave up His life on the cross and died for our sins (Matt. 27:32-44; Ac. 2:23, 24; Rom. 3:24-26; 1 Cor. 15:3,4; 1 Pet. 3:18). This type of sacrificial love is the kind of love husbands ought to have for their wives (Eph. 5:25). In his book, The Meaning of Marriage, Timothy Keller writes, “The reason that marriage is so painful and yet wonderful is because it is a reflection of the gospel, which is painful and wonderful at once.”
Third, marriage is not to be centered on the needs of your spouse, but centered on the truth of the gospel. Couples who get married because they believe their spouse completes them, miss the whole point of marriage. Marriage is not so much about the couples’ likes and dislikes, but about loving and respecting one another based on the finished work of Jesus Christ. Paul writes, “complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus” (Phil. 2:2-5). What would marriages look like if their actions were lived out according to the mind of Christ? Well, for starters, it would look like Romans 12, Philippians 2, Ephesians 4, and James 2.
Fourth, marriage is a covenantal relationship that is consecrated in the presence of a holy and all-consuming God (Heb. 2:20; 10:31). Marriage is the only relationship that becomes “one flesh” and symbolizes the unity of God and the relationship between Christ and the church. Jesus mightily affirmed, “What God has joined together, let man not separate (Matt. 19:6). Marriage between a husband and a wife needs to be cherished and protected!
Fifth, and finally, marriage is about commitment. This kind of commitment is not simply “till death do us part.” It’s about being faithful and remaining loyal to your spouse until “death do us part.” A marriage commitment isn’t easy. It takes a lot of patience and supernatural forgiveness. But in the end, a committed marriage is the most rewarding and cherished relationship on earth!